I remember the first time I questioned suffering. It was the most difficult time in my life.
On June 1, 2000 I found out that my sweet baby boy was terminal. He was due a few months later in October. I really can’t explain what it was like to hear the words, “I don’t know how else to tell you, but your baby is going to die… his life expectancy is five minutes to two and half hours.”
My first thought was, ‘how can I possibly enjoy a lifetime with my son in only a couple hours?‘ I was heartbroken.
There’s a lot more to my story, and perhaps someday I’ll share it with you. For now I will share that my sweet Jonathan was born on September 21. He was beautiful and perfect in his mama’s eyes. He died the following day peacefully in my arms… and my heart broke all over again.
We all suffer. It’s an inevitable part of life. Jonathan’s death wasn’t the only time I’ve suffered. I know you’ve had your heart broken, too… probably more than once.
Some pain is inflicted at the hands of someone else. Other pain is a result of our own choices and behavior. And still others, like my son’s passing, is different… there is no one to blame.
I think this is why we question. When we can blame someone, it’s somehow easier. What about when it’s something that’s out of our hands – do we blame God or the universe or fate?
I’ve come to believe that no matter what ‘bad’ happens in your life – searching for the cause isn’t the point.
What you want to find is the result. In order to find that, the two most important questions you’ll want to ask yourself are:
What can I learn from this pain?
How can I become a better person through this experience?
If there is one thing – true of every painful experience – it is that there is always something to be learned… even if those lessons are very, very painful and cause you heartbreak for years.
It’s time to think in a new way about your past and your pain & suffering
What if pain plays a different role in life than you’ve always thought? What if there is a reason why we all suffer?
From healing my past and from helping hundreds of people heal the pain they’ve experienced, I’ve found interesting and common results. I’ve actually found a lot of good coming from suffering.
And so I’ve wondered… could the reason everyone suffers in life be so that we can become better people? Not only better as individuals, but as a whole – as a whole global community? I believe that. I deeply believe that.
Here’s a short list of good things I’ve seen happen from suffering… but let me be clear – the good didn’t come from the suffering, it came from the healing.
When you heal pain from your past:
- you become a better person – more accepting, compassionate, and forgiving
- you immediately become happier
- your confidence increases (I know that sounds crazy, but it’s true!)
- people notice that you’re happier
- you have fewer ‘bad’ days
- it’s easier to cope with all your different emotions
- you understand yourself better… at a deeper, more meaningful level
- you’re no longer stuck in the past
- you are no longer connected with the person who hurt you (anger, sadness, confusion, or jealousy keep you connected, forgiveness and acceptance free you)
- it’s easier for you to create what you want in your future (because the past no longer holds you back)
- something everyone has experienced is that other people notice the changes in you… you’ll hear things like, ‘You seem different – happier‘ ‘I’ve never seen you so (happy, confident, peaceful, cheerful, calm),’ and even, believe it or not, ‘You look younger.’
- you realize that your personal and private healing truly has an impact… that your healing makes a positive difference, not only in your life, but in the world. We all know there is plenty of fear and anger on Earth, but what we need are more happy & healed people – and now you are one of those people!
Another powerful result of healing your past is that it makes you better at all your ‘roles’. You become your best self, and that makes you a better wife or partner, a better mom, a better friend, daughter, and sister, a better employee and neighbor, a better everything. This is because you are free from the sadness and anger from the past, and you are happy in the now… in this present moment.
There is nothing more important than healing the pain you’ve experienced throughout your life journey.
If you want to speak with me about your suffering, I’d love to hear from you.
I provide free consultations for people who are ready to leave the pain from their past behind so they can live their best future.
These are not sales calls. If we seem to work well together, and if I am certain that how I help people heal will work for you – then we’ll discuss what that could look like.
If not, I’ll provide you with other resources to help you get started with healing.