Why you should never stuff pain inside

You should never stuff pain inside.  Never.  It does not heal there, it just remains and then upsets you whenever something reminds you it’s there… sitting inside you.

Hopefully you read my post about 9 things you need to know about the bad things that happen in your life.  It explains why we have pain in our life.  If not, read that first.

It’s natural and totally not surprising that you’d want to stuff pain inside.  Ignore it.  Deny it.  Keep it as far from your thoughts as possible.  It’s PAINFUL after all.

Many people find all sorts of creative ways to hide their pain – alcohol, work, shopping, drugs, medication, and the many options of technological distractions like social media, music, and television.

But when you ignore your pain what do you think happens?  Does it go away?

Imagine there’s a very large bag of trash in your living room.  In the bag are things like rotting meat and dog poop.  The living room is your place to chill, relax, get all comfy.  But how on Earth can you do that when it stinks horribly?

If this happened would you ignore the trash and just deal with the stench?  Would you, rather than deal with the garbage, just put a clothespin on your nose so you wouldn’t smell it so much?  Would you miss out on your favorite room and start hanging out in the bathroom instead?

No, you wouldn’t do any of these things!  You’d take care of the garbage, even if – for some odd reason – that took you a few months.  You’d take the stinky mess out of your home!

When you stuff pain inside it’s like the garbage.  The pain sticks around.  Sure you can fake it – act like you’re ‘over it’ and ‘doing fine now.’  You can wear your happy face, move on to the next best thing, and even take it out on others.  

No matter what you do, the pain will be there – stuffed inside.

And you know what happens… every once in a while that pain is sparked.  Maybe it’s something someone says, a song on the radio, a movie you watch, or perhaps it’s that you bump into someone and suddenly the memory of your pain is staring you right in the face.

When that pain is sparked, it’s right there again – causing you misery.  

A much better option is to deal with the pain.  It’s not a simple answer, especially as there are many different ways of suffering in the world, and it’s not always a quick fix, but it’s a lot better than holding onto pain from the past.

Here’s the most important thing to remember – when you do heal the pain, something amazing happens.  You’re transformed, you’re free, you’re better, you’re happier.  

That healing leaves behind a wonderful gift for you to unwrap… all because instead of stuffing pain inside to ignore it, you chose to heal.

I help people heal emotional pain.  If you have pain you’d like to heal – set up a free consultation with me… go here or tap on the image below.  I’d love to spend some time on the phone with you to see how I can  help you stop the suffering once and for all!

Love & Peace
Shannon

Next week I’ll be writing about why you should get to know your pain better… it can become an ally (really!)