You’ve been hurt.
Things have happened that have made you suffer. People have hurt you. You might have made choices that caused yourself pain.
Just like when you break a leg and need physical healing, when you suffer from painful life experiences, you need emotional healing.
You’re the only one who will ever truly understand your life story… the good, the bad, and the ugly. You’re the only person feels your emotions, holds your perspective, carries the memories, and thinks the thoughts you do.
The problem is those emotions, perspectives, memories, and thoughts can hold you back from being as happy, confident, and fulfilled as you want to be.
There are many ways bad and painful things happen in life.
Maybe you…
have been through a tough divorce
were abused as a little girl – sexually, physically, or emotionally
were a victim of rape or other violence
struggle with an addiction you’re trying to get over… alcoholism, food, or other drugs
feel stuck in grief from someone special who died
can’t shake the feeling of hopelessness about your future
have never felt good enough… you might not even know why, but you’re filled with self-doubt, a lack of confidence, and a
feeling worthlessness
All this pain – even if it’s from a long time ago – stops you from living your best life now.
I’ll explain with a comical metaphor:
Imagine walking into your living room and finding a big pile of garbage stinking up the whole room and making it impossible to relax and enjoy watching your favorite show on Hulu.
What would you do? Would you just say, ‘Oh well,’ and sit there trying to ignore the stinky garbage?
Or would you take the time to clean it up, bring it outside, and light a wonderfully scented candle?
I’m betting that, even though it would be gross and you’d not be very happy doing so, you’d clean up the mess so you could enjoy your evening without nose plugs.
This is the problem in so many peoples’ lives – they are living every single day with stinky •mental garbage• that’s ruining their enjoyment of life. The garbage isn’t rotting food or other trashy things….
The stinky mental garbage is all the pain they’ve suffered in the past… pain they haven’t healed. And who can blame them…
No one ever teaches us what to do with emotional pain.
You were never taught…
how to forgive someone who hurts you and doesn’t care
how to forgive yourself when you do something and feel guilt, regret, or shame
You were never taught…
what to do when your heart breaks after a divorce and your whole life has fallen apart
what to do in order to feel hope for a future that is going to be nothing like you had originally planned
You were never taught…
how to love yourself.
You might even wonder, ‘Is self-love even a thing… is it possible for me to love ME?’ When you were
a little girl you got in trouble if you said something mean to someone. But what do you do when you say or think unkind
things about yourself? No one ever taught you how to be nice to YOU.
You were never taught…
what to do when you are a victim… when someone knowingly hurts you
when you’re left with anger and rage, fear and confusion
when you don’t feel safe and don’t trust others very easily
when you’ve been violated sexually and/or physically, and a part of you feels like it’ll never be the same again
You were never taught…
how to handle being abused as a little girl – when someone you should have been able to trust hurts you more than
anyone will ever understand
what you need to do to shake the fear, shame, and anger over having your childhood stolen from you
how to regain your sense of self so you can hold your head high and not continue carrying the memories of when you
were a sweet little girl
You were never taught…
about how addiction works
to understand why people become addicted to doing something so that they don’t have to feel their emotions (there are a
few reasons listed above for why people fall into addiction)
that recovering from an addiction is something to be proud of – not ashamed
how wonderful life is when you decide to live a clean & sober life even if others don’t understand
No one can avoid pain and suffering. They are part of living a life.
Even if something happened 20 years ago, and you think you’ve either healed or stuffed it deep inside so you’ll never think about it again – the suffering can sneak up on you.
You might be watching a movie or listening to a song, and BOOM – the memory is back and you’re upset. And that memory often sticks around for a while. It just sits there in your thoughts – reminding you of the pain.
You might find yourself:
tossing and turning at night reliving what happened
feeling lost in strong emotions – not sure how to work through them
experiencing depression, rage, or fear
distracted by the pain
having your work or relationships affected by the old pain
wondering if you’ll ever be able to get over it
But there’s a different way you can view the pain in your life.
A New Way to Think About Pain & Suffering
What if pain plays a different role in life than you always thought? What if there is a reason why we all suffer?
From healing my past and from helping hundreds of people heal the pain they’ve experienced, I’ve found interesting and common results.
When you heal pain from your past:
- you become a better person – more accepting, compassionate, and forgiving
- you immediately become happier
- your confidence increases (I know that sounds crazy, but it’s true!)
- people notice that something is different about you (a good something!)
- you have few ‘bad’ days
- it’s easier to cope with all your different emotions
- you understand yourself better… at a deeper, more meaningful level
- you’re no longer stuck in the past
- you are no longer connected with the person who hurt you (anger keeps you connected, forgiveness frees you)
- it’s easier for you to create what you want in your future (because the past is no longer holding you back)
- something everyone has experienced is that other people notice the changes in you… you’ll hear things like, ‘You seem different – happier’ ‘I’ve never seen you so (happy, confident, peaceful, cheerful),’ and even, believe it or not, ‘You look younger.’
- you realize that your personal and private healing actually matters… that your healing makes a positive difference in the world because there is more than enough fear and anger on Earth, but what we need are more happy & healed people – and now you are one of those people :)
Another powerful result of healing your past is that it makes you better at all your roles. You become your best self, and that makes you a better wife or partner, a better mom, a better friend, daughter, and sister, a better employee and neighbor, and better everything. This is because you are free from the sadness and anger from the past, and you are happy in the now.
There is nothing more important than healing the pain you’ve experienced.
How You Heal the Pain from Your Past
Insight Healing™ is an alternative to therapy, and it’s designed to heal emotional pain.
Insight Healing™ is a therapeutic technique developed by Shannon Elhart and only use at GreenHeart. You can learn why she developed it by going here.
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In a nutshell:
- You can use Insight Healing’s process from the comfort & privacy of your home (no trips to a therapist’s office, no fitting appointments into your already tight schedule)
- It’s a process you learn so that you can use its steps over and over again, because, let’s face it… more painful things will happen as long as you’re alive
- If you’d like, you can interact with a group of people who are also healing pain. This is nice if you’d like the support and encouragement of a community, if not, you simply work on your own.
- The process you use TRANSFORMS you and your future. Here’s how:
The transformation happens because you learn these things:
- Mindset – how to use your thinking patterns to empower you and help you create your happiest future
- How all the pain from your past affects you, and how it overlaps – which helps you heal more quickly, deeply, and permanently
- What you need to do in order to love yourself and know you are worthy
- How to use all of your emotions to help you rather than keep you feeling trapped in anger or depression
- What’s necessary in order to view your experience differently and become truly free from it
- HOW to forgive yourself and others (there is a process for both types of forgiveness)
- What you can do to be more intentional and purposeful about how your future unfolds, so you really can live your best life with as much happiness, inner peace, and fulfillment as you want
Learn how Insight Healing™ is used in a program designed specifically to heal the pain from your past